Basic Components 4 Marriage: (Here are exploits from the video for clarity) Talking about, that favorite subject of the human race “Marriage”
Marriage happens to everyone in some way or another – if we parallel partnerships to marriages. Components of true friendship can be put to the same principals as marriage. Business relationships can also be put to these principals. And, that is assuring that we are coming from a Biblical (Christian) point of view; Truth, Honesty & Integrity.
In Marriage both parties must agree on what they will use as a standard for their relationship. As a Christian I am choosing The Bible.
Okay – What does the Bible say about Marriage?
Are both parties in agreement to what the Bible says about Marriage, how to handle it, who does what, how to take time & then reconnect and so on…?
Communication with each other should almost mimic Gods communication to us. In other words encourage your spouse in all situations. The power of Life & death are in the tongue, so why would you curse yourself?
The example of paying a bill – If you pay a bill late there is a penalty. The penalty is built in so you don’t pay it late – but if you do, there is an extra fee & that is designed as a punishment. Punishment is not supposed to feel good. You are supposed to learn to pay on time. (ie. Prepare yourself, plan better, ultimately budget better)
In Marriage there are no Winners or Losers – this would imply you are playing a game and there is competition involved.
The Win Win situation in Marriage is knowing that you have the Victory in God. The 2 have come together to make 1 in LOVE. That is the Win – The Victory. And we know that God is LOVE.
Self inflicted wounds – reaching back to past relationships & measuring the present situation by what had happened. You are not ready to be in a relationship – Don’t punish yourself & the other person. (This puts resentment( from You) in your present relationship that the other person is not privileged to & you are reacting to them in a way they do not deserve or understand)
If you lack Self-Control, DO NOT GET MARRIED! You are NOT ready!!!